"I Want It And I Want It Now"

Little J is approaching 22 months and although I know it's another 2 months yet till we hit the terrible twos, I'm starting to see a little sneak preview of what's to come. Recently he has wanted everything that everyone else has and when he doesn't get it he will cry or scream and it's hard not to give in but I have to be strong and start to teach him to share. 

At the moment he hasn't got a clue what sharing is, why would he? All his toys are his and he doesn't have to share with anyone but that's soon to change. Over the next couple of months he's going to be doing a few days a week in nursery - eek! How is that even possible that he's already old enough for nursery. Where has that time gone?
So going from just him, playing with his own toys in his own home to having to play with toys for everyone and competing with 20+ kids to get them is gonna be tough. 
So to help him I'm just gonna have to put my foot down and he's going to have to start sharing when he is playing with me, daddy or his big brother. Usually he will pick up a toy and I'll pick up another. He will then drop the one he had and want the one I have. I will give him it and pick another then he will want that one and so on and so on. 
First steps will be to not automatically give him the toy I have just because he kicks off. I will use words like mine or mummy's, pointing to the toy I have. Then point to the toy he has and say yours or little J's followed by the word share. I am going to make sure the word share is used lots over the weeks and months because little J like most kids learns from repetition. 
Sharing is a big important part of growing up and I want to start working on it now before the terrible twos are in full swing. I know all kids at some point snatch or moan when they have to share but I would be devastated if he was a little horror in nursery when it comes to playing with toys.
When do you think is the right time to teach your child to share?

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  1. These are some good tips! Although I don't have kids myself, I can understand the predicament you're in - it's tough being hard on someone you love so much but sometimes tough love is the answer. I think you'll do a great job when it comes to the terrible two's as long as you remember to stand your ground :) Good luck :P

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    1. Definitely gonna stand my ground on this one :)

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  2. As early as possible is the right time but genuinely little littlies don't really get it until around 3 but everything you do now eases that acceptance, plus you get to play with all his toys!

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    1. Yes, I'm starting early just to get him used to it really. Wish me luck!

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  3. I think that kids really do understand the concept of sharing when they start to interact with other children. I think I will love nursery for this and many other reasons - I know that my daughter did. #BinkyLinky

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    1. Yes, I'm hoping interacting will help him lots

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  4. i'm trying to do the same with Isaac atm - he's 19 months and is getting terrible with other children. I only really noticed when I took him to soft play and he screamed at a little boy who had a train he had earlier. He's not around other children much so that's my next step - more play dates!! x #sharewithme

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  5. Great tips. Having twins helps with teaching them to share as they've always had to! Thanks for linking up to the #BinkyLinky

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    1. I'm still trying but it's hard work, hoping he learns quickly

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  6. Love the tips here. I was lucky to skip the terrible twos and instead got the terrifying threes! lol Sharing while my two almost always had to do it as they are so close in age helps but still goes crazy sometimes. You are not alone in that. Lots of playdates help too. Great post. Thanks for linking up to Share With Me #sharewithme

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    1. Omg never heard of the terrifying threes ...eek

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