They Say An Only Child Is A Lonely Child

I honestly didn't expect big J to adapt to being a big brother as quickly as he did. He had been on his own for almost 11 years, then suddenly this other person popped up and wanted and needed lots of attention. 
Big J spent those 11 years being the only child and only grandchild too. I was an only child and I never really thought about it much. I may have said in passing that I would love a brother or a sister but that would be all really. I never needed a brother or a sister I was quite happy on my own.
They say an only child is a lonely child but I never saw myself as lonely and I never looked at Big J that way either.
He has lots of friends and never had a problem socialising or making new friends. He would have friends over for tea or come with us on days out and I think that would have happened anyway even if there was a brother or a sister. We never just invited kids over or out with us because he was an only child, it was because that's just what we do, even now.
Big J was never one for playing alone and he would always play with us but that didn't bother us. I love playing and big J knew that so we would always get stuck in. 
Growing up I loved playing with my mum and dad but I also loved playing alone too. I had lots of friends but I did enjoy my own company and I am still like that now. I love it sometimes when I have the house to myself or little J is sleeping. I never get bored and can keep myself entertained, pottering round. 
I had a thought this morning that because there is a huge age gap between my two monkeys, little J might at times feel like an only child. We are happy being a family of four so there won't be any additions in the future so growing up little J will be just the same as big J really. 
The thought didn't make me sad or feel the need to have another baby it was just a thought that I hope little J will be able to make friends as easily as his brother. 
What do you think of a big age gap?

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  1. I think a big age gap has both its trials and its benefits. There are nine years between my eldest and youngest, but I've got three. The younger two only have 2.5 years between them and they are the best of friends, enjoying the same thing, while my older son often feels left out as the younger two often get more attention, or the different type of attention that younger ones need. It's not easy being a parent!

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  2. how cute are these photo's i think a big age gap is great thing as me and my brother are only a year and its a pain

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