When Your Little One Doesn't Sleep

Poor little J has been quite ill now for 5 days. I feel so sorry for him because at first he had such a high temperature and he was very drowsy and confused. During the night he was up quite a lot and really restless. So Daddy and I haven't had much sleep over the last few days and it got me thinking and remembering just how hard it is when you have a baby or toddler that just doesn't like to sleep.



Luckily for us little J loves to sleep and can easily go 12 hours each night and has done since just a few months old. His brother big J was a completely different story and although he loves his bed now that wasn't always the case.

Big J was never a good sleeper. He could easily be awake 22 hours a day and still be bouncing round.

 I know now that it was probably because he never had a routine.

When he was born we were living with my mum and dad and for us to be able to afford a new house I went back to work when he was 4 months old. When we would arrive home from work we wanted to see him and play with him and before we knew it, it would be 9 o'clock and he had probably just gone past his tiredness.

So this became a HUGE problem because our bad habits lasted years and were impossible to break.

As he got older he would want us in his bedroom till he fell asleep and being first time parents we used to do it, but as soon as he would fall asleep and we would try to creep out he would wake up.

We used to just sleep on his floor which looking back now is ridiculous.

During the day he wouldn't really nap and when he did it would be a sigh of relief that I could maybe get a quick nap myself but after just 5-10 minutes he would be up and ready to play.

Looking back at old photos he just looks exhausted all the time.

So how did we eventually break it? It took a lot of persistence, patience, tears and tantrums but we eventually broke it and showed him who was boss.

We got into a nice routine of the usual bath, bedtime story and bed. It wasn't easy but the key is don't give up. Its hard and sometimes you feel like giving in but you know deep down its best for you all to break it.

We started slowly with maybe just staying in his room for 10 minutes after he had been tucked in, then reduced it slowly till eventually it was just story, tuck in and then leave.

Looking Back

I can totally relate to anyone who has a baby or toddler that doesn't sleep. It is so hard to function and do all what you need to do during the day when you have had no or very little sleep.

When I say little J is a good sleeper maybe he is or maybe it's because we have learnt from our mistakes and since day one he has had a proper routine.

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  1. This must be how the wife feels when I have insomnia!
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  2. Must be such a nightmare when the little monkeys don't wanna play ball! Luckily I haven't experienced this yet but I'm sure my time will come ;)

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    1. Fingers crossed you won't have little monkeys keeping you up :)

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  3. Sorry your little one has been poorly, hope he is feeling better now. We have always had problems with our two sleeping. My son was over 3 before he would sleep properly in his own room. We just got him sorted and had another baby! She won't sleep in her room all night either and comes in with us most nights!

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    1. Hope your little one starts to sleep through soon :)

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  4. Wish you little one better. x Sleep problems in are such a struggle between parents and children. We had so much grief when my boy was little, I used to cry from the sleep deprivation and from exasperation as to what to do :(

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    1. I was a mess when john never slept. You just can't function straight

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  5. Goodness me, this brings back memories! We still have a few sleep issues, and of course everything is worse when they're not well, isn't it? I hope your little man is on the mend! E x.

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    1. Thanks he is feeling better slowly but were getting there

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  6. i hope your little was gets to feeling better soon. It's so hard when they are not well and not sleeping. Surviving on no sleep is never easy. You sound like you are doing an amazing job. I hope you get some sleep soon. The pictures are so cute though of your gorgeous little one. He has amazing eyes in that second to last photo. Melt a girls heart when he is older. Thank you so much for linking in to Share With Me and introducing me to your blog. So lovely. I hope to see you again soon. Get well little monkey! Get some sleep momma! ;) #sharewithme

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    1. Thanks Jenny. He is just starting to feel better now so hopefully some sleep tonight :)

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  7. I completely agree that routine is key to sleep! We made all the classic mistakes with our first and in the end sleep training was required... Our other two were in a sensible bed time routine from day one! Hope your little one is feeling better x #ShareWithMe

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  8. No sleep is a killer. But he is so beautiful how can you resist - hope he feels better soon xx

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  9. I think some kids just sleep better than others, I am on my third, and after two good sleepers, my third has been always been a right fidget , he is finally getting there at 2 and a half, and yet I did everything the same as with the first two who slept well from early one!

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  10. Oh bless. Hope he's feeling better. My H on the whole is an ok sleeper but there are weeks throughout the year when it feels like we're regressing and I find it hard to function

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