Monday, 14 May 2018

Looking Back - Big J's Birth Story


It was quite a surprise when I found out I was pregnant with big J. I was 21 at the time and although having children was definitely something we wanted we hadn’t been trying. Finding out I was pregnant was definitely a nice surprise and I think I ‘Grew up’ very quickly after seeing the positive on the pregnancy test. John and I had only been together a year but it felt right and we were extremely excited.
Being my first baby I just sailed through the pregnancy. Everything was perfect. I don’t know whether it was because I was younger or because I didn’t know any different but I just breezed through.

When it got to my due date I was huge and I actually didn’t think I would make it to that date but I did. Big J was quite happy where he was and didn’t make an appearance for another week.

7 days after my due date around midnight I started to get a weird feeling around my stomach. I had aches in my back and knew I was in labour. We rang the hospital and they told me to try and relax, have a bath and take painkillers and if it progressed to let them know.

It did progress and the weird feelings came more frequently. We rang again but they told me to stay at home as long as possible. At this time around 5am my waters hadn’t broke so I had an idea in my head that this was going to be a long labour.

We were living with my Mum and Dad at the time and as John didn’t drive my dad was on standby to take us the hospital. At 6am we all decided it was time to get ready and head to the hospital.

It was a bank holiday Monday so when we arrived there was skeleton staff. The morning shift didn’t start till 7am so I was told to wait in reception in the main foyer.

By this time I was in a little pain. I was frightened too as although I had read every book about pregnancy and labour I suddenly didn’t feel ready or prepared for what was about to happen.

I remember sitting in the reception thinking about how much pain I was going to be in and whether I would be like the women you see on TV who scream so loud.

It was long wait in the reception whilst they swapped staff, I was fine but then I felt myself pushing and what I can only describe as a feeling of a head popping out in between my legs. I admit I screamed and I panicked. A midwife just happened to be walking past ready to start her shift and she grabbed a wheelchair and made me kneel up as they wheeled me to a hospital bed.

The feeling between by legs wasn’t a head it was my water that hadn’t broken but stayed in a sack and needed to be snipped. I hadn’t read about that happening but apparent it does.

By the time I was lying in the bed I looked at the clock on the wall and it was 7:30am. The nurses and midwife didn’t seem to be in any panic and where just casually filling out charts and fiddling with the gas and air in case I wanted any.

About 10 minutes later I got the urge to push. The midwife wasn’t convinced and at this point hadn’t managed to check me yet to see just how far I was dilated. I remember she put on her gloves then looked at me and said ‘I can see the head - you are having this baby now’

A few pushes and some minor screams he was out. Big J was born at 7:50am. When he arrived he was purple and not breathing properly and they took him away. They soon after returned with him and he was a much pinker colour. I had no idea at the time that taking him out the room seconds after he was born wasn’t a normal thing to do. No one explained why or what they did he was just passed to me. I still wonder to this day what they did to him.

Big J weighed 9lbs 13oz and was 7 days overdue. My labour was 7hrs 50 minutes and I had a natural birth with no pain relief.

After writing that I cannot believe it was 16 years ago. Still feels like yesterday. This little boy is about to sit his GCSEs and I want to wish him all the luck in the world. I know he can do this!

Michelle
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35 comments

  1. Oh I love birth stories! I haven't heard before about what happened with your waters and I have two children, giving birth is one of those things it feels like you have no idea about what goes on unless it happens to you or one of your friends.

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  2. What a little cutie! It is incredible how quickly time flies. My eldest is 21 and she was two weeks late! I ended up having an emergency caesarean. Kaz

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  3. 9lbs, I can't imagine ever giving birth to that naturally... puppies and fur babies for me only I think ;) Sounds like the memory is still vivid despite being over a decade ago.

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  4. I was a younger 1st time mum as well :) Birth stories are so beautiful :) Its so scary when things dont go as planned, that must have been scary. J was also a big baba and well cooked by mama. Its funny no matter how many years pass we never forget

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  5. What a lovely post, thanks for sharing. I can remember every detail of Lucas arrival

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  6. I can imagine it doesn't feel like it was that long ago, your birth sounds quite straightforward compared to some of the horrors I've heard from friends x

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  7. What a way to journal the memory, so you always have the story saved to reflect on!

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  8. What a lovely memory. I’m sure big J’s birth is still something you think back on a lot even if it was that long ago! What a lovely post x

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  9. Aww what a lovely dedication to Big J. Can’t believe how much you remember even though it was so long ago!

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  10. It's so difficult with your first and when they tell "o relax", it's horrible, how can you!? x

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  11. Very similar to the birth of my son and lovely to read.

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  12. Charlene Merrall14 May 2018 at 13:39

    Aww I love reading birth stories! Funny how the midwives didn't think you were in labour, they thought the same with me but we know what our bodies are doing!

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  13. Beautiful - time passes so quickily - wishing your young man lots of sucess

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  14. It's lovely to look bsck on your experience. I wrote the birth of my son asap so we didn't forget anything as it was such a long Labour. It's definitely a frightening experience for first time nums when they don't know what to expect,

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  15. my son also was quite purple a little after he was born, and like you, there wasn't much explained about what they did when they checked him over. All is well though I suppose!

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  16. Wow, what a big baby! It sounds like a wonderful experience though and I'm amazed you can still remember all the details.

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  17. Looking back on how our children came into the world is amazing, right? And WOW to 16yrs ago, my eldest is 19 this year and I cannot even deal!

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  18. What an inspiring thing to do! I think every mother should sit down and do this - helps the healing process and preserving memories.

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  19. What an inspirational story! I think every mother should do this, sit down and write it down. It helps the healing process and preserve the memory.

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  20. Mellissa Williams15 May 2018 at 11:24

    Wow, what a story - I didn't realise the waters could do that either! Birth can be such a daunting thing

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  21. What a lovely story and cute pictures!

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  22. Ah what a great birth story and I agree that the years certainly whizz by but when you look back at the really wonderful occasions and they seem more recent than they are!

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  23. oh my gosh 16! I can totally imagine how that has flown by as the past 6 years of being a mum for me has too! x

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  24. What do you think he is thinking about? Clearly something of great importance!

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  25. It's amazing how much detail we can remember of our labour/s even though the pain is seriously bad!

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  26. Wow it's great to hear you breezed through your pregnancy, not always the case with everyone. Waters have to be broken quite often during labour it happened to me too. The time does fly past quickly I still remember all my pregnancies like they were yesterday. My eldest is nine x

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  27. What a wonderful story and its great that you can still remember every detail even though its been 16 years.

    Yeah Lifestyle

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  28. Wow, I have a daughter who is 18 in August, where did the years go :) cherish each day, good luck on your sons GCSE's

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  29. He's dreaming of his first motorbike and those wild parties when he gets to college...

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  30. 9lb 13oz WOW! My twins were 5lb and 5lb 1oz and they were difficult enough!

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  31. Wow! He wasn't messing around was he? He definitely was ready to come out at last :)

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